Posted in Epiphany, Faerie

Preserving the Balance

Another reason Self Care is Essential

A wise friend of mine, Mary from Walks Within posted something on their Facebook about different methods of ‘unwinding’. One of the options was to be given permission to NOT be helpful.

I know I know…. what sorcery is this?!

So I replied that I was using this method lately and even using it to create better boundaries. for myself as well as others. Then it came to me, that on some level my historic inability to accept help or ask for help can be another way to make other people feel indebted to me.

Well that is a nasty thought….

Luckily, for my own sanity, I have been working very hard to let people help. To ask for it and to graciously accept help when offered. In addition to offering help myself as a nurturing personality. It is a part of the energy exchange that makes up a healthy human existence.

Healthy human what now?!

That’s right. Healthy Human existence. I have been informed that it is a possibility and a reality for some! When we do nothing but give of ourselves, we create a gap in the cycle of energy between ourselves and others.

We see this imbalance in the condition of our natural environment, in overworked societies, in the rise of mental health problems. The cycle of give and take is essential to our well being.

Isn’t that a kick in the chest….

The idea that we, as a society and me, as an individual has short changed myself and helped create imbalance and undue advantage of my generosity, and the possibility of manipulating others into liking me, or feeling indebted to me is a hard pill to swallow.

Sadly I think my enlightened self has a point.

Another interesting point is the Fae Element. It is part of the Fae condition that you do not thank a Fairy. Never. Not in so many words, not personally. It can breed bad luck. There other ways to express gratitude and those are a must, and easily understood. Humans without the touch of Fae do not understand these other methods of gratitude. Therefore, it is my hypothesis of those of us who are Fae-Touched share a natural disinclination to accept help. We are also often not understood that we are expressing gratitude in our language but not understood by many humans who are not touched by our magic.

Advisement…. being an asshole is NOT being ‘fairy’ and gas-lighting people into your reality and dismissing theirs is abusive, not magical.

As a Witch, my primary goal is to see to the preservation of Balance. Not only of the world outside of me, but within myself as well. As within, so without.


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